Gayane Breyova Biography Wikipedia

Yana Zhukov, I have been a happy person for about seven years. And all these years I have been engaged in "pumping" this state. My personal experience and study of the topic showed: the formula for happiness is actually simple, but only that it work, you need to work every day. Everyone probably heard about "happiness inside". But to believe and even understand what we are talking about is quite difficult, especially if you are a resident of a big city who needs to pay on accounts and go to work that spends a lot of time in traffic jams or in the subway, which incurably get relatives, changes the husband or takes out the brain, lacks money for an apartment, car, vacation, clothes and even food.

We are brought up on fairy tales about Cinderella, a sleeping beauty and a bucket of a fellow, where everything becomes good only when someone from the outside comes and corrects the sad life of the heroine.

We have grown and continue to live in a world where the level of happiness is measured by material well -being, brands and beautiful pictures in social networks. And then people finish the life of suicide, because something went wrong or the reception of antidepressants was missed, to accept the norm now. Tales end at weddings, long -awaited meetings, end in victories over the monsters.

What after is no longer a fairy tale. The brain jumps from a fairy tale, trying not to make a pause. Between the fairy tales there is a great risk of depression ”-Alexander Kolyada, the geneticist once spoke with a friend, and to my question, whether she was happy, she replied:“ The last time I experienced the state of happiness at eighteen, when a guy who I liked was taking me on a bicycle through a summer field.

”For a few years that have passed between a condition close to depress, to that stable, resource level, at which I am a resource level, at which I I have realized for myself: happiness should not be confused with the state of euphoria, with the pleasure of external “fit” and with positive thinking. relationships, withdrawal from the usual lifestyle, the vertebral hernia with which I almost stopped walking.

For a couple of years I lived in some kind of dark viscous apathy. When the first glimpses of recovery appeared, I got to Dr. Leonid Elkin, who was the question “What request? Because inside there was a black hole, scorched space, emptiness, and I wanted to become alive again. Being happy is the process. And even the action: two concepts can be divided here - do we want to “feel happy” or “to be happy”?

What do you want for yourself? How do you want to fill it? At the same time, in the early texts in English, the word Happy designated simply “successful”, that is, a combination of circumstances, not subject to human control, the book “Promise of Happiness”, Sara Ahmed. Over time, this element of chance disappeared, and therefore, as the author of the book writes, the misfortune is now perceived as a situation in which a person did not make maximum efforts to be happy.

In the minds of Western people, happiness is mainly the predominance of good over the bad, but for Buddhists, for example, this is a neutral state between suffering and pleasure. If life is drawn to you in black colors, if your heart is lacking, you will not be happy, no matter how luxury surrounds yourself. But if you have achieved inner peace, you can find happiness even in the most difficult conditions ”-the Dalai-Lama XIV in the process of writing this article, on the“ live air ”, tested my“ happiness inside ”for strength.

I started work-and I got sick. There was not very much vigor, and I scanned myself-happiness did not go anywhere, just became slightly more muffled, since the energy left for health restoration. The deadline was at the beginning of the repair, which I was waiting for and was afraid of all summer, and now I have no gender in the bathroom, cold water from the tap in the kitchen, full of defeat in the house and point on the street.

It’s awkward, how terrible it is to be repaired and still limping ”, now I am laughing:“ Thank you that I took a little finger ”. Such a strange adaptation. To prevent this from happening, the nervous system needs periodic stress, shake.So, there is happiness as a pleasure, as one of the sides of the pendulum, and there is something else-as a calm acceptance of the inevitable and necessary alternation of pleasure and pain, ”the topic of happiness Vladislav Pussenko comments in his book“ A Brief Guide to Self-Release ”, several sessions with which the years of therapy was replaced, and allowed me to remove“ pink glasses ”, to free themselves from other people's obligations in their heads and their heads in their heads and Click on the pure concept of "I am." Finding your own and calm down that high -quality social ties are one of the main conditions for a healthy and happy life, many books have been written.

In his speeches, he refers to Harvard research, which was conducted for 75 years and showed that the ability to happiness and to obtain pleasure from life is determined by loving relations. Loneliness kills, and it's not whether you have a permanent partner or many friends, but as a relationship with them. I have been living alone for a long time. In addition, dramatically changing the lifestyle, she began to communicate a little with people “from the past” and for some time was generally in a vacuum, almost without live communication.

Was I unhappy or unwell? It seems not. At the same time, I successfully worked for a decent salary, but at some point I stopped understanding why I am doing this. I turned 40, and there were problems with the meanings: who am I, why am I, where am I? I saw on the Internet the Landing of Organicwomanclub, I bought a ticket to meet this “Women's Club”, not understanding that and who could wait for me there.

And I got into the circle of various women with their projects and common interests. For example, there I met a woman whose happier I had not met before. I wake up with this and fall asleep every day. ” And to a question from the audience, how to maintain this condition in gray Moscow, Gayana replied: "She is not gray for me." It was in November, but everyone believed her. It’s right to eat, engage in fitness, do not drink and not smoke - yes, it all raises energy, but does not lead to a state of happiness, does not fill your life with meanings.

What is the co -stroke formula? The main thing is to live with a fewer claims to reality: a master of meditation of awareness Viktor Shiryaev, whom I am currently learning, calls this “meta-orality” “metta”-loving kindness. Intuitive nutrition: food that personally does not harm me and brings pleasure. Physical activity is only in high, I have Scandinavian walking.

There are such paintings of the world written by rude strokes: oysters, wine, Maldives, sex, and everything else between these bright spots is just a “ordinary life”. So happiness for me is a more subtle perception of what is happening. Pleasure is in a cup of tea, that the sun peered out, and even when it hurts, to live this pain and have fun when it leaves.

” The Vietnamese proverb to find their own and calm down another happy woman I recently met - Svetlana Landa. Svetlana studied meditation techniques with Tibetan masters. In Moscow, you can get to it on a one -day retrites in the Buddhist center of RIP, and I went to her retrois “clarity and silence” to the Ecopark “Clear Field”. She arranges such weekends once a month, the nearest - at the end of September.

In two days of practices, you can get acquainted with the monkey with the mind and elephant with emotions and begin to understand how not to be identified with them. On the contrary, the development of self -awareness and attentiveness implies the development of the habit of making judgments about others, to see more potential and resources of goodness, compassion. Stop in time and choose reactions, change the habits of thinking.

This is what helped me become happier and successful. ” Western journalists call the happiest person in the world the Tibetan master Jongure Rinpoche, the author of the books “Buddha, the brain and neurophysiology of happiness” and “joyful wisdom”. At his lecture, which took place in August in Moscow, this person with an excellent sense of humor spoke about such an experiment: two people, one of whom won a million in the lottery, and the second lost the opportunity to go after a car accident, a year later they measured the state of the brain at the level of “happiness”.

The level was the same, despite such different circumstances. Mingure Rinpoche interprets the concept of “suffering” or duckha in terms of Buddhism as a constant and familiar feeling of dissatisfaction: life could be better under other circumstances. The pleasure of achieving other external circumstances is always temporary, and in contrast, returning to a “normal” state seems less pleasant, and we again want to enjoy: “The suffering of changes can be understood as a kind of dependence, addictions - this is an endless search for a constant“ buzz ”, which is unattainable by definition.

We literally sit on anticipation. ” From the book “joyful wisdom” the biochemistry of the body: hormones of happiness to deal with the nature of chemical processes in the body was helped by the book “Hormones of Happiness.How to accustom the brain to produce serotonin, dopamine, endorphin and oxytocin »Loretta Graziano Broining. Dopamine was discovered during the research of "Punition Centers".

Everyone heard about the experiment of Bichevorist psychologists James Olds and Peter Milner, which they spent in the middle of X: the rat pressed the lever that stimulates a certain area of ​​the brain with pleasant sensations until the high died of this. Dopamine is an active participant in the remuneration system, which works as follows: the desire to get something, a pleasant emotion from satisfying this desire and consolidating behavior on this causal relationship.

Dopamine stands out when a person reacts to any external stimulus and is looking forward to its receipt. In the era of consumption of unnecessary things, vivid impressions, hot news and likes with comments on this system, everything was built. Do not forget that such an installation has developed in people so that they can remember where they can find food, and not in order for them to have a feeling of satisfaction " -" Dependent Brain ", Zhadson Bloher Serotonin creates a sense of recognition and respect from others.

One of the causes of clinical depression is a violation of serotonin production, which is why many antidepressants work on the principle Serotonin. In fact, you can be “unhappy from birth”-the scientist, bio-chemist Yakov Marshak, during our interview about the nature of addictions, told me about this. This is determined by specific genes on which the mood regulation system depends, and this is called “deviation” by the syndrome of the deficiency of satisfaction.

Such people will strive to compensate for their “internal suffering”, and this is what, in particular, it is determined whether a person will become an alcoholic or drug addict. Such a syndrome is adjusted by professionally selected dietary supplements and practices, such as Kundalini Yoga, and this is the experience of Marshak himself. Endorphins - endogenous morphine.

These neuropeptides affect opioid receptors - by the way, they affect alcohol and sugar. Endorphins are produced as a protective mechanism both in order to relieve pain, and as a response to stress. When the level of endorphine in the brain decreases, you begin to see the surrounding reality in all its reality. Survival depends on this - you need to learn how to be able to cope with this reality, what it is.

In her brain there is not enough neurons to imagine another world. She does not imagine that there is a world without predators, and is not offended by the world for not corresponding to its expectations. He does not condemn himself because sometimes he cannot maintain his offspring. People expect much more from life, so they are so often concentrated on disappointments, instead of rejoice at achievements ”-the book“ Hormones of Happiness ”Oxytocin is responsible for developing positive emotions in relation to someone and gives a person a sense of safety among his own kind.